I've never been a "Mrs." I don't have anything against it. It's just not for me.
I didn't change my name when I got married. It didn't feel right. So I admit I feel myself bristle the littlest bit when someone calls me Mrs. So-and-so, whether they use my name or The Ex's.
I guess it's always bothered me somewhat that a woman was supposed to change not only her name, but the manner in which she was addressed, simply because she got married.
And a man? No such change. What's that about?
I have this amazing aunt. She's the one who took us to museums and shows, and bought us the best books and music when my sister and I were kids.
Some time in the early 70's, she started addressing all our correspondence to Ms. Hall instead of Miss Hall.
"What does that mean?" I remember asking my mother.
And she went into an explanation that I recall included something about Women's Lib, Gloria Steinem, and this new solution that grouped all the Mrs and Misses into one category, kind of like the Mr's. She remarked that many people were sure it wouldn't last.
I don't remember having much of an opinion about it either way at the time. But I think it sort of grew on me. I liked being Ms Hall. And it appears, for the most part, that the Ms thing seems to have stood the test of time.
When I worked at the Vineyard high school out here, none of the kids had any problem with it. In fact, they pretty much called all of their female teachers "Mizz," or Ms, no matter what their prefix was. None of the Mrs seemed upset by this.
Maybe we're just all more laid back these days when it comes to names and labels.
What do you think?
How do you want to be addressed?